Life hack

How do I keep my calmness in a very tensed situation?

Nirmalya Saha, Psychosocial and motivational blogger. Wisdom coach.

First you have to understand what the so called “tensed” situation is.

It’s a situation that doesn’t match with your predictions, expectations, desires. So, the so called situation has nothing to do with tension. It’ll occur according to activities done by you and others surrounding you. So you’ll have to take control of time and action to get rid of tension.

Say, a family member is in critical illness. You’re waiting outside the hospital. You’re too tensed to sit for few minutes. Just roaming around the corridor and thinking about the possible call from doctor. May be praying to God for early recovery. These are things you simply can do there as a guardian. Do you know, tension can make you feeble!! Physically and mentally ??? So, what’s the utility of your presence there?? If you have faith on Doctor, do as he prescribes. If you have faith on God, pray sincerely. That’s it!!

Today is your kid’s result day. You’re waiting at lounge. Sitting under fan you’re sweating in such a thought that if your kid can’t get a good grade, what others will say/think/discuss!!! It’s your kid, not a machine. If he/she can’t obtain good marks, what’s harm in it? Was it the last exam! Don’t scold, just make the kid understand about the utility of studies in life. Give some productive examples. But don’t force at once. Let him/her generate interest. You just accompany your kid. Things will come in much better way to him/her.

Your lies get caught by your partner. You came to know and got hyper, what’ll be the situation when you both come face to face!! Why so worry? Take your own time. Relax. Face with patience as long as your partner can’t vent out all anguish. Now take a deep breath and admit politely that you’ve done a blunder. Leave it to your partner and be silent. It’s a matter of time things will cool down. Your over reactions can damage the scenario.

So, what lesson you got!! Is it worthy to bear tension. Think deeply. Nothing is in your control. So, change your thought process. Focus on action rather than illusions. Illusions produce dreams. And dreams are made to be broken. Total valueless.

Instead focus on preparations, cares, manners, attitudes. Life will deliver a lot of spring moments and happiness.